ADVICE
Turning a Whirlwind Romance into a Successful Relationship
Sometimes, movies can make it too easy to believe that love can happen in the blink of an eye.
And you know what? Sometimes, that’s exactly how it happens! Or at least, that’s what it feels like.
You meet someone. You spend a magical day together. Just before the sun sets, you find yourself seriously considering the idea of being with this person for the rest of your life.
It’s a classic whirlwind romance.
But can that kind of love story ever lead to a committed and successful relationship? Or will something that happens so fast crash and burn just as quickly?
Step 1: Take the Risk or Lose the Chance
You’ll never know unless you try.
This is true for so many aspects of love and life, including when it comes to things like getting your shot at a whirlwind romance.
It’s too good to be true, so it probably is, right?
But if you’re too scared to approach a beautiful stranger because you think clichés are never realistic, or you always doubt something that doesn’t happen according to a strict timeline or schedule, then you may end up waiting for true love until you’re old and gray.
There are times when the best thing you can do is just let yourself be swept off your feet. So what if there’s a possibility that you’ll break your heart or be disappointed?
At least you tried.
Step 2: Let Your Feelings Inspire You
The common risks of having a whirlwind romance involve getting so overwhelmed by your feelings that you rush into things that normally take most couples a lot of time.
As a result, you and your partner gloss over parts of dating and relationships that are considered fundamental, like getting to know each other before making any serious commitments.
But making a whirlwind romance work doesn’t necessarily mean you have to do everything slowly or that you need to ignore the way you feel. You just have to work side by side with your emotions instead of letting them control you.
For example, if you love your partner so much your heart could burst, don’t ignore their problematic behavior. Rather, help them confront their issues so they can be a better lover and person.
Intense feelings should also motivate you to have long-term goals and not just live in the moment. If your love makes you believe in forever, then you need to start planning for how exactly you can make the happily ever after come true.
Step 3: Never Lose Sight of What’s Important
The thing about a whirlwind romance is it’s often just the beginning of a love story.
Sure, you got from Point A to Point B pretty quickly, but you still have the rest of the alphabet to go through, and what you do next will determine the success of your relationship.
People who have a lot of life experience and who know what they really want are often in the best position to take advantage of this kind of situation, and it’s because they already know what matters.
So in the end, as long as you keep yourself tethered to what kind of relationship you and your partner are aiming for and the kind of life you want to build together, no distraction or excitement will be able to sway you from your goals.
You can ride the high of a whirlwind romance and let it take you to where you want to go, as long as you know exactly where that is.
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