PSYCHOLOGY
The 4 Types of Single Men: Which One Are You?
A night out with one of my best friends is usually a great inspiration for topics to write about.
And any quality time with Beatrice, who we fondly call ‘Bee’, inevitably leads to a bizarre conversation about her favorite subject: single men.
A proud serial dater and a big fan of romancing all sorts of guys, Bee is someone who isn’t afraid of calling it like she sees it — especially when it comes to love and relationships.
So I wasn’t at all surprised when she started telling me that she’s managed to categorize the single men she meets all the time into 4 major types. After making sure she wasn’t just pulling my leg, I gave her my full attention.
As a professional relationship consultant, I felt it was my duty.
As someone who’s met plenty of single men myself, I was more than a little curious about where most of them fall in Bee’s interesting grouping system.
1. Mr. He’s a Little Confused But He’s Got the Spirit
Clearly a reference to that meme-worthy scene from the sitcom The Fresh Prince of Bel-Air, Bee tells me this type of single man is the reason why most flower shops are still in business.
He’s a textbook gentleman, someone who’s probably gonna wear a suit jacket and oxfords on his first date.
Though sweet and well-intentioned, the single men who belong to this category are also often inexperienced. He likely has traditional views on love and maybe even unrealistic dating expectations.
2. Mr. Modern Casanova
The next category is your typical playboy Lothario who thinks he’s God’s gift to womankind.
Bee says single men like this are always single and available, even after they’ve left a trail of broken hearts in their wake.
She also says they’re not all bad, and can actually be fun to be with if women are looking for someone to casually date and hang out with.
Men who’ve been branded “modern casanovas” aren’t necessarily bad lovers; they’re probably just not a good idea for something serious and long term.
3. Mr. Are You Sure You Even Like Women?
If there are single men who love women far too much to ever settle down with only one, then there are also those who claim they want a girlfriend. . . even when they don’t seem to like girls all that much.
According to Bee, they are responsible for the reputation of men as women haters and anti-feminists. They also often don’t want a partner in life — they simply think it’s their right to “have” a woman, someone to control and parade around instead of to love and cherish.
Bee thinks it’s actually kind of sad, how these single men taint the dating pool of otherwise perfectly friendly guys who are genuinely interested in being in a loving relationship with women.
4. Mr. Future Family Man
The last category is what all dreams are made of, Bee jokingly tells me.
Somewhere out there are single men who will not settle for anything less than what they want: a woman he will someday marry, who will be his partner in life and the mother of his children.
It can be a little intense dating a man like that, but that’s because they will always be looking for a mature and committed relationship.
Some women can be looking for fun and games, and there’s nothing necessarily wrong with that.
But if they can’t yet see themselves settling down in the future, then maybe dating single men who very clearly do is not right for them.
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