The Worst Love Advice That Actually Worked

I’ve been a matchmaker for a while now, and I have helped hundreds of people find love and even more couples with their relationships. Sometimes, I wouldn’t do anything except ask questions. Other times, I would advise and help coax them into healthier habits.

On rare occasions, I go the extra mile. Let me tell you the story of how I gave the worst love advice, and it worked.

The Man

A few years ago, I met a client — a man in his 30s. He was a simple person, constantly spending his time in bars hoping to find a date. There wasn’t anything wrong with that. After all, traditional methods still work in the dating community.

He was also a fairly handsome man with a stable career. His hobbies were interesting, and he was very approachable. It makes you wonder, why wasn’t he meeting potential partners? I couldn’t work it out, and it didn’t sit well with me.

So, I said, “Stop going to the bar for a few weeks and focus on work.”

It wasn’t good advice at all — it was terrible. I gave no objectives, goals, or anything to measure his growth by the next session. Instead, I went to the bar he frequented to see what was wrong.

The Bar

When I got to the bar two weeks after meeting with my client, I was blown away. At first, it looked like any ordinary bar. There’s a counter, some booths, and a pool table. The only stuff that wasn’t normal was the number of attractive people.

I asked myself why my client could not find a date in this place. I’m pretty sure he’s tried talking to a few women here. It just didn’t make sense. But he did say that he always gets here by seven, and I was there at six.

So, I decided to make the most of my time by enjoying my visit. The ambiance was great, and the music was equally amazing. It wasn’t until I tried getting the second drink that I noticed one of the bartenders.

The Girl

I have no other words to describe her except gorgeous. She was stunning and friendly and knew most of her regulars by name. The men were swooning over her. I did not hesitate going over to the counter to chat with this lively woman, girl-to-girl.

She was in her 30s and had worked at the bar for over seven years. The talk was interrupted when I heard my client’s name from one of the other customers. You do not understand the shock when I heard her say she was expecting him today.

At that moment, I did not hesitate to ask about her romantic interests. It turns out that this very woman had a thing for my client. She liked him and thought they had something, but he never made a move, and she was too busy.

The End?

When my client suddenly stopped showing up, she found a yearning for his presence. The realization came to me like a storm. I had given my client the worst love advice only to find out it helped a potential match develop deeper feelings for him.

The whole bar thought they were together, so no one tried approaching either of them. My client wasn’t having a hard time finding someone — he’d already found a match and couldn’t see the connection happening.

When I got home, I told my client, “Go to the bar. Stop hesitating. Go for it.” He didn’t understand at first, but he went there anyway. To this day, I counsel for their relationship, and they haven’t stopped reminding me about it.

I just wanted to share this moment because I think about the other missed opportunities we fail to see. Don’t ever take what’s in front of you for granted.