PSYCHOLOGY | ADVICE
Telepathy 101: Tips for Men Who Need to Read Women’s Minds
Just to set expectations out the gate: I am not here to teach actual telepathy.
In fact, there won’t be invasion of mental spaces of any kind involved in this endeavor; no extrasensory abilities required to read women’s minds. The only magic I will attempt to help create is the magic that comes with happier relationships because of relieved men and satisfied women.
Let’s start.
I’m sure a lot of people out there, men in particular, can relate to the frustration that comes from partners expecting you to know things without being told. It’s a common complaint that causes all kinds of issues in relationships.
All of a sudden, you’re expected to know what’s wrong with just one sneer or angry huff. You’re put in a position of recalling something obscure and long-forgotten without any reminder or clue whatsoever.
Granted, not all men are put in this position. Not all women demand this kind of mind-reading skill from their partners, either. But for those who can use a little guidance in handling this uphill battle, here’s a few pointers:
Tip # 1: It’s all about body language.
From posture to facial expressions, body language can tell a lot about what a person is currently thinking or feeling.
If a woman is not saying anything but she’s tapping her foot impatiently or crossing her arms, chances are there’s something she wants you to catch on to without her having to spell it out.
If you start noticing gestures and actions that are a little too out of the ordinary, start taking a closer look.
Tip # 2: Read between the lines.
Sometimes, it’s not about what’s being said but what is kept unspoken.
While clear and healthy communication is always the gold standard for relationships, every now and then, things like irrational emotions and personality quirks can cause people to be purposefully vague about what they’re trying to say.
When a woman is saying one thing but her actions express another, it might be time to read — or listen — between the lines.
Focus on the things being repeated and which words are given more emphasis. You might find in them the hints you’ll need to interpret the hidden message.
Tip # 3: Take note of important events.
Now, this doesn’t necessarily mean affairs like birthdays or anniversaries.
An important event can be any situation or moment where significant things occurred that your partner reacted to in a meaningful way. If parts of a conversation over dinner stood out to you, or a trip ended badly and caused one or both of you to have a rotten mood, that dinner or trip will likely come up again sometime soon — one way or another.
Taking note of these instances will help you understand exactly what a woman is referring to when she starts to pick a fight or complains about issues that may be unclear to you. If you know beforehand which problems remain unresolved, it’ll be easier to guess what your partner can be muttering about.
Tip # 4: Pay closer attention.
At the end of the day, the best way to “read” a woman’s mind is still to exert a little more effort in getting to know her.
Not only will this help you predict mood swings and temper flare ups, it’ll also help you understand why she’s expecting you to know things without apparent prior knowledge or warning. Who knows? There might just be a perfectly logical reason for her outbursts even though they seem to come out of nowhere.
Reading people’s minds feels like a tall order, and some may even say it’s completely impossible. Sometimes, all it takes is to diligently do all the things you should’ve been doing as a lover in the first place.
After all, isn’t living in each other’s pockets — to the point where you’re almost of the same body and mind — one of love’s greatest, and perhaps strangest, perks?
