REALITIES
Slavic Women Are Not Ideal Partners for American Men
As a Ukraine native, I’ve seen and heard just about every stereotype there is for Slavic women.
We’re often depicted as tall, blonde, and conventionally attractive femme fatales in killer heels. And for reasons I’m sadly aware of but still frustrated with, people also see us as desperate to marry foreign, particularly American, men.
This combination of stereotypes makes it easy for guys, even well-meaning ones, to assume that we make ideal girlfriends and wives.
Well, here’s my two cents on that: not so fast.
Dating a Slavic Woman
The problem with pursuing Russian, Ukrainian, or Czech women (among others) based on dangerous clichés is that everybody’s being set up to fail.
Men who genuinely believe that all Slavic women are great romantic partners for all the popular reasons will end up disappointed.
And Slavic women who think they’ve found someone who will love them for who they are and not for what Hollywood or the newest Slavic girl trend online is claiming will be downright heartbroken.
I’ve been in the latter group far too many times to know that it’s a common and pervasive phenomenon.
At best, couples will go through an awkward stage where they need to disabuse each other of several incorrect notions. At worst, it inevitably becomes difficult for them to make things work because the damage is done.
No matter how sincere a man’s intentions are, his assumptions will always affect the way he acts when dating a woman who just happens to be Slavic.
From Ideal to Real
So does this mean American men should give up on the idea of dating Slavic women?
Not at all.
But what they need to do is examine their motivations and understand that there’s more to individual women than their well-known cultural identity. Similarly, just because a Slavic woman doesn’t fit certain stereotypes doesn’t mean she isn’t worth getting to know.
Sure, I’m a Ukrainian woman who’s had my fair share of experience when it comes to dating foreign men. I’m not the only one.
This in no way means I want guys to be interested in a relationship with me because they’ve heard that the ladies from my side of the world are incredibly sensual, know how to hold their liquor, and are submissive homemakers.
In fact, I consider myself to be a huge dork, I haven’t had vodka in weeks, and I have a demanding career that I don’t see myself giving up anytime soon.
But I am also a hopeless romantic who very much believes in a loving and committed relationship.
Slavic women are not ideal partners for American and other non-Slavic men because we shouldn’t be held up as the ideal for anything. We are living, breathing people who make great partners for more reasons than just where we hail from.
The Right Slavic Woman for You
So the next time you meet Slavic women or consider dating one, know that they won’t always be how they’re portrayed in popular media.
Leading with your knowledge of stereotypes will also not get you anywhere fast.
The best way to see if you’re cut out for a successful relationship with a Slavic lady is to be open to all the ways she’ll change what you thought you know.
She may not be the ideal partner, but she may just be the one for you.
