RELATIONSHIPS
Are you Cut Out for a Relationship with a Foreign Woman?
It’s one thing to fantasize about a relationship with a foreign woman and another to actually be in one.
Not only is there a world of difference between theory and practice, but a lot of the men who look to other countries for greener pastures and special ladies can also be entirely ill-equipped to handle their grand quest for love.
(Trust me. Years as a consultant for all things international dating has made yours truly a bit of an expert when it comes to how way in over their heads some people can be about interracial romance.)
Now, I’m sure a lot of you are going to ask, “Marta, does that mean I shouldn’t pursue a relationship with a foreign woman?”
Not at all! In fact, the freedom to try international dating is an advocacy that’s near and dear to my heart, and if I’m to believe most of the non-Ukrainian Americans I’ve been with over the years, a relationship with a foreigner can open your world to another side of dating.
It’s just that you’re going to have to think about a few important questions before you can truly be confident that you know what you’re getting yourself into.
Why do you want to date a foreigner?
Knowing your real motivation is key to a successful relationship with a foreign woman.
As a member of the Eastern European diaspora in the US, I’ve met my fair share of men who wanted to be with me either out of curiosity or because of ridiculous misconceptions about “exotic” European girls.
Needless to say, none of them had much of an appeal.
If you really want to be in a serious relationship with a woman from another country, you best believe your motives should be more than just “because they’re hot.”
Are you ready for a long-distance relationship?
If you’re going to date a foreigner, there’s a good chance that part of your relationship will be with both of you living oceans away from each other.
It’s great if one of you has already immigrated or is pursuing a career overseas, but you’ll still need to always be prepared for the possibility of being in an epic LDR.
How will you deal with cultural differences?
Despite how drop-dead gorgeous your special lady ends up being or how delighted you both will be to find each other, you’ll never be able to escape one of the hardest parts about a relationship with a foreign woman: cultural differences.
Language barriers, passive-aggressive food wars, and awkward family encounters are only some of the things that people don’t like to advertise about dating foreigners.
How you handle these challenges that are unique to interracial couples will determine just how suited you are for a life with a partner who was born and bred in a different part of the world.
Do you want a casual or committed relationship?
This last question may not be exclusive to a relationship with a foreign woman, but it’s still a vital point that men should consider.
Not all dating experiences with foreigners are created equal, and the best way to make sure yours becomes a success story is if you know exactly what you want going into it.
There’s nothing wrong with just wanting a good time with a beautiful lady, but it also may not be possible depending on her culture and traditions as well as her own dating expectations.
A relationship with a foreign woman is still, after all, a two-way street. Guys who never forget that are usually those who end up expertly hacking it.
