Love Lessons from Romance Novels Every Couple Should Know About

Pride and Prejudice and Gone with the Wind are two of the most popular romance novels of all time.

Do you know why? Because these books tackle important themes, such as class, family, gender… and romance.

Since these are mainly written to highlight the romantic development of two characters, there are many lessons that couples can learn and apply into their relationship. These include:

#1. Communicate your inner feelings.

One of the most hated tropes in romance is miscommunication. Honestly, it’s justifiable because this is such a big no-no, even in real life.

As a couple, there’s no reason why you shouldn’t communicate your thoughts and feelings with each other. Instead of keeping secrets and solving problems on your own, ask your partner for their opinion.

Miscommunication and having no communication at all are such a waste of time. It would be a huge disappointment knowing that you could have resolved an issue or prevented it from occurring if you only communicated with each other effectively.

Avoid dragging things on. Make it a goal to resolve a conflict by communicating your thoughts clearly.

#2. Be comfortable being apart.

I can’t take reading a novel with a possessive male lead and a clingy two-dimensional female lead because the relationship is just too unhealthy. They can’t take a minute of their lives to stop thinking about each other.

This is why I love it when I read stories with characters that are comfortable being apart.

As a couple, you should emulate this healthy behavior in your relationship. You have separate lives that should be as magical as your love life.

It’s not ideal to give all your time to your partner. Focus on your different goals, but support each other as you do everything to achieve them.

#3. Let go of your differences and work as a team.

It’s also a guilty pleasure of mine when two characters who initially hated each other’s guts start working as a team — not to mention this is where the romance usually starts.

This kind of thing also happens in a relationship.

When you don’t work on resolving your conflicts about money, intimacy, or values, your relationship will fall apart.

However, if you let go of your differences to solve your problems, you gain a deeper understanding of each other. This trust and compromise serve as the basic foundation of a healthy long-lasting relationship.

#4. There’s no such thing as a perfect relationship.

There is no romance novel where a couple doesn’t experience conflict. The same applies to real-life relationships.

No matter how compatible you are with someone, there’s always going to be a problem.

In the end, it depends on how you deal with it. Like the main characters who end up happily together at the end of the story, make the decision to confront your problem as a couple and don’t let it ruin your relationship.

#5. Revive the romance.

After reading these kinds of novels, I can’t help but want a similar experience. I want to have a good love story of my own. I want to experience intimacy with someone I love.

The more I thought about these things, I realized just how much intimacy helps in keeping the romance alive, which is so important in a relationship.

Even if you have been a couple for over five years, you still need to sprinkle a bit of romance into your life. Have a date once in a while or try something new together.

Whatever it is, remember that intimacy is a must to maintain the emotional bond in your relationship.

Use These Lessons to Strengthen Your Relationship

This is the recipe for a good romance novel — a love story with a satisfying ending, featuring well-developed main characters.

Now, there’s an emphasis on the last three words because this is what makes a good love story, either in books or in real life.

No matter how perfect of a couple you are, your story will not end well or will never be called a love story at all without you and your partner working together.

You need to develop your character in order for your relationship to work. Try to see how you can apply these lessons to developing your love story, like Mr. Fitzwilliam Darcy and Elizabeth Bennet in Pride and Prejudice.