How Better Communication Can Improve Your Dating Life

The cornerstone of every good relationship is good communication.

The way we convey our thoughts and actions towards our significant other shows how open and honest we are to one another.

In your case, how well are you communicating with your partner?

Here’s how you can identify better communication in your relationship.

Are you more of a listener or a talker?

You just had a long day, and you meet up with your partner to talk about what happened. Do you start rambling on about every detail or do you listen and wait for your turn to talk?

Listening to your partner shows that you value what they have to say.

When you listen, do so in an active manner by responding to what they have mentioned. If you listen in a passive mood, it will show a lack of interest.

Take note of how you participate in your conversations. Being more of a talker is not entirely a bad thing. Just make sure you’re not hogging the spotlight all the time.

Listen as much as you talk and talk as much as you listen. By identifying which one you put more effort into, you can identify specific areas that you need to improve.

Finding the right balance between the two can greatly affect your attentiveness and how you communicate with your partner.

Do you prefer to call or is texting much better?

We usually have our own preferences when it comes to communication.

Some prefer to call if they have a lot to say. They think that they can cover more ground that way than having to spend time typing a long message and waiting for the other person to respond.

Contrary to that, some prefer texting or instant messaging, as they might be anxious about speaking with someone over the phone. (Yes, some people would even go so far as to ignore any calls just because it makes them anxious.)

This also allows them to organize their thoughts and choose their words carefully, as phone calls necessitate a response in real time.

Now, which one do you prefer?

Which one does your partner prefer?

By having this discussion, you can easily adjust to each other’s preferences.

With that, neither of you will get overwhelmed if one suddenly calls the other up or sends them a text message.

What is the ideal length of your messages?

Sometimes the length of our messages can affect how we communicate.

For example, if you receive short close-ended messages, it could signal a lack of interest from the other person. Then again, short messages don’t automatically mean a lack of interest. They could be busy or they might prefer to call instead.

The same goes for long messages. A long message can entail that they are taking the time to type something they want to say to you.

While there is no exact ideal length for your messages, they should be met with clear motives so as to not misinterpret each other.

Are your dates more digital or in-person?

It’s important to identify your medium of dating.

Do you like spending time with each other in person or do you prefer to have it virtually?

Take note that both have their unique strengths in dating.

When you’re physically together, you have clearer communication paired with body language. Virtually, you get to set a schedule for video calls, chatting, etc.

By identifying which medium works best for you and your partner, you can learn more ways to improve your communication and overall, your relationship.

By determining your communication preferences, you have less misunderstandings and more clarity in your conversations.