RELATIONSHIPS
Gentle Reminders for Couples in the Honeymoon Phase
There’s nothing wrong with being happy and in love. After all, that’s kind of the point of being in a relationship.
But it’s also important to remember that as magical as the honeymoon phase can sound, you still need to be realistic about certain things. If you really want to build a relationship that will last with someone you want to commit yourself to, it won’t hurt to look beyond your rose-colored glasses every once in a while.
Don’t worry. It’s not as hard as it seems.
Enjoy the Ride
Contrary to popular belief, you don’t have to be scared of the honeymoon phase. Not at all.
Yes, it’s often described as the stage in a relationship where you’re led to believe that everything is great and your partner is the most perfect person in the world, but that’s both hyperbolic and reductive.
When you’re only just beginning to fall in love with someone, your focus tends to be on all the things that you like about them and how happy they make you feel. That can be a positive thing.
Just because something feels too good to be true doesn’t mean it has to be.
Don’t let people discourage you from enjoying the best things in life. If you’re in love, then be in love. If you’re happy, then don’t allow people to make you feel otherwise.
So what if they say the honeymoon phase can be dangerous because it can lead to pain and disappointment? As long as you know what to do and what to avoid, you’ll be just fine.
Don’t Let the Bad Outweigh the Good
Arguably the most common consequence of losing yourself to the honeymoon phase is the painful realization that the person you love is not, in fact, as perfect as you originally thought.
You begin to see their flaws and all the other things that make them human, and therefore, imperfect. As a result, you can end up second-guessing your feelings and whether or not being with them is what you really want.
But finding out someone’s imperfections doesn’t have to invalidate all the things that make them good or worthy of loving.
When you start to have arguments or fights with your partner, none of it should erase all the happy memories you’ve made or prevent you from making more.
Happiness Is a Choice
At the end of the day, how you handle the honeymoon phase of your relationship is entirely up to you.
Even when you’re finally discovering more about each other, including the parts that neither of you are necessarily proud of, you don’t have to let it change everything.
Being happy when in love is a choice that only you can make.
The honeymoon phase is only one stage of your relationship, which means it’s only a small portion of the entire journey.
In the long run, it will depend on you and your partner, which aspects of it you want to keep and which ones you’ll treat as lessons you can use to be better moving forward.
