3 Important Reasons Single Men Should Become Fathers

For most fathers, being a father is extremely important to their identity.

That’s what 57% of participants said in a 2015 Pew Research survey. 54% said that parenting is rewarding all of the time and 46% of them agreed it was enjoyable all of the time.

Reading that made me wonder what single men were missing out on. Especially those single men who wish they could be fathers. Sadly, many continue to struggle because of the unrealistic standards society has placed on them.

It’s just as equally a shame to have unborn children. If a single man said that having a son or daughter contributed to who he was, then I would assume he would raise him or her well. That son or daughter would appreciate the efforts and the importance their father has for them.

What are some specific reasons single men should become parents?

1. The feeling of holding your child for the first time.

It’s an indescribable feeling. The kind of feeling that happens when you hold your child after he or she comes out into the world. The feeling of being able to hold your precious child in your arms.

Some men have described the feeling of the gift of a child on the same level as a miracle. Others would remark on how surreal the situation felt. Moments that capture your attention as you witness the laboring process. The joy that rushes through you as you hold your son or daughter in your arms for the very first time.

Nothing prepares you for it and for many men it’s an experience they’ll never forget.

2. The privilege of raising children.

Your world changes.

For the first six months, you’ll have to survive the evenings being woken up from sleep. You can help with changing the diapers and some of the feeding. Whenever your baby is crying, you’ll be holding him or her in your arms feeling their warmth. You’ll make every attempt to calm them down.

Afterward, their cute squeals and cries more than make up for the random tantrums. Being able to take a nap with them from time to time can also make the stress from work go away.

As they grow through kindergarten and grade school they’ll make memories. Do you remember those times when your family took pictures of you? You’ll get to take pictures of your children to remind you and your family later of the greatest moments in your child’s life.

You’ll share with them your wisdom and experience even if they may not agree with it. It’s part of the journey. Be a witness to your children in school plays or events. In their teen years, teaching them the amazing sense of freedom of driving a car.

Maybe you’ll go camping or hiking in the great outdoors. If basketball is your thing, then you can show them the wonders of the game. In short, sharing and guiding your kids through what the wide world has to offer while making beautiful memories along the way will be worth being a parent.

3. The accomplishment you’ll feel when they finally leave your guidance.

Eventually, you witness the results of those nearly 20 years of guidance.

Along the way, it won’t be perfect. Parenting never is. You’ll see them off someday after they turn 18 or when they’ve moved out of the house to start their career. All children will go through these moments as they grow up.

However, that moving truck will come in and they will thank you for the love and care you put into their development. At that moment you might remember the first moments you felt when you held them in your arms. Now he or she is an adult in front of you striking out in the world.

You’ll feel more than just a sense of pride and accomplishment.

There’s still more ahead.

As you head toward your golden years, you might be gifted with another surprise down the line. You become a grandfather.

We see a lot of men going their own way or giving up on the idea of marriage and relationships. It can appear to be a bit shortsighted because these are just phases of the bigger picture.

What comes after dating and relationships is something more beautiful and grand than single men could ever imagine.

There are unspeakable joys that fathers all over the world can share with you. It might not always end like a happy-ever-after story. However, the chance of finding a happy ending is zero if you remain single forever.

Why not consider marriage and the joys of fatherhood in mind today?